Accepting Failure, Disappointment & a Lot of Mixed Emotions
I didn't have an entirely smooth end-of-marriage experience.
While my spouse and I appeared to others to be a united couple who both loved to work and give back to their community...
The shift at home from being in-sync partners to tense, married roommates was dramatic. Every difference between us became divisive.
When I finally got the courage to admit we needed a divorce, I became overwhelmed by the uncertainty created by divorce. I didn't know what the outcome would be in court. Nor could I imagine what my personal life would look like after our divorce.
Regardless of the fear I felt, I focused on staying positive.
I remained vigilant in obtaining my goal of returning to peace which pushed me through many uncomfortable situations.
Most importantly, I focused my time and efforts on taking the next best steps.
As I began the divorce process, I quickly realized:
"A lot more is gonna have to change in my life than I expected."
The first few months were rough.
I didn't hit the panic button on my marriage and then troops stormed my residence to rescue me.
Every small "victory" in my divorce was marred by an even bigger hit to my self-esteem and self-worth. I wore the shame of my divorce like a scarlet "D" emblazoned on my chest.
Painful heart-to-hearts with family and friends to try convince them that divorce was my only option, were excruciatingly difficult.
On top of long hours reviewing my budget to figure out how to balance it.
While searching for a new place to live.
Contemplating ways to make more money.
And doing it all as quickly as possible so I could get out of an awkward home-life situation.
One day I paused and realized the painful reality:
I could not continue to live my life the same way.
Ultimately, I was stressing myself out trying to keep everything the same and give the appearance that everything was okay...
When in reality, I knew I was rigidly holding on to aspects of my married life that I had become accustomed to rather than what I really wanted.
In that moment, I decided....
I had to let go of some things.
My divorce became a catalyst for so many positive changes in my life so now I never have to explain to anyone why moving on from my marriage was the best option for me.
And best of all...
I've had the honor of helping more than a thousand divorcees like you sidestep months of uncertainty and struggle to focus on rebuilding their lives after divorce.
Action by action.
For more than a decade, I've built a reputation for teaching divorce "action-by-action".
Not just "step by step" ...
But actually going into the nitty gritty details that give you the confidence to start the divorce process without the overwhelming fear and crippling freak outs.
I've shown divorcees not only how to "DIY" but how to do it better with thoughtful consideration.
I'm able to to this because I teach what I know.
I teach what I've personally done to protect myself during my divorce so that I was in the position to rebuild a more fulfilling life, which ultimately included earning more money, purchasing a larger home, having children, a new marriage and a brighter future.
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That's why you've been scouring the internet.
That's why you've looked at online divorce forms.
That's why you've considered having a consultation with an attorney.
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A Little About Me
Named a Women Trailblazer in Business by Governor Scott Walker.
Recognized as 40 Under 40 by the Milwaukee Business Journal.
Named a Leading Lawyer by M Magazine.
Remarried, Mother of Five Year Old Twins, and dog mom to a Standard Schnauzer named Anakin.
Can't Get Enough of Bravo Top Chef and Great British Baking Show (but I can't cook or bake).
Love to sing random songs to match the mood or the moment.
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